Happy Tuesday, lovelies!
Gosh, yesterday was a long day. I had work calls starting at 7am again (today too!) and was in the office by 7:30am. I honestly' wouldn’t mind that if it meant I got to leave work early, but that hasn’t been the case yet. I really shouldn’t complain because this role has been pie compared to the stress tornado I was in at my last job, so what’s a daily 7am call? (Practicing positivity and not seeing “perfection” in my workplace/employer/career….)
Anyways, today I wanted to talk about something I heard over the weekend. I was listening to a podcast and the host made a comment about how if her internal dialogue was directed to a friend, they’d end up be enemies. That’s not quite verbatim, but you get the gist, and it has since stuck in my head. As someone who is also often hard on herself, I found it interesting to hear this seemingly intelligent and talented woman share the inflammatory way she speaks to herself. The person she was interviewing was emphasizing how you should speak gently to yourself, like you’re speaking to your best friend, rather than indulging such negative self talk.
When I was younger, I definitely had a more severe internal dialogue. I’ve made a conscious effort in the last few years to be nicer to myself, including with my self talk. Part of it stemmed from paying more attention to the type of example I was setting for other women/girls, and how I’d want little girls to learn to speak to themselves. I used to be really involved with the nonprofit Girls on the Run, which is dedicated to empowering young girls and supporting them in building confidence and creating healthy habits (though learning to love being active/running!), and I’d never want a little girl (or boy) to berate themselves or be as tough on themselves as I’d ever been on myself, you know?
I found myself at the gym last night feeling not quite as comfortable in my body as I usually do, and as a result, some of those negative comments began floating back into my head. I remembered how off-putting it felt to hear that podcast host admit how harshly she speaks to herself, and realized those thoughts were not doing me any favors; the fact that I was at the gym and working on being stronger and more active were important, and it’s important to not let any negative narrative in your head derail the progress or positive action you’re already taking.
Maybe you’ve also been hard on yourself or sometimes find yourself slipping into the habit of speaking negatively to yourself instead of recognizing successes or improvements. If so, let this message be for you - we can all be a little bit kinder to ourselves, a little bit more forgiving, a little less judgmental. You can have high standards and big goals, and still not degrade yourself whenever you don’t completely achieve the level of perfection set up in your expectations.
On that note, I’ll hop off my soapbox, but while you’re being nice to yourself, perhaps try and be even nicer to other people as well. Why not?
Have a great day! xo